| Until 
                my son Theo was about 12, it was fairly common for him to startle 
                or sit up in the midst of dreams. He would say something and then 
                go right back to sleep. I usually work late at night just a couple 
                of rooms away. So I would often sneak into his room and try to 
                awaken him just enough to ask what he was dreaming.  One night (about 8-years-old) 
                he cried out : "Mom! Mom!"  I was right there. So I stepped 
                in, gave him a little nudge and said:  "Theo. 
                Theo. You were dreaming.  What were you dreaming?" 
                 Theo (more or less asleep): "I don't know." I tried a little prompting: "You 
                called somebody. Do you remember 
                who you called?" Theo (eyes closed): "You" I said: "No, no. You 
                called "Mom! Mom!" "Why did you call your mom
 instead of me?"
 Theo (as he fell back asleep 
                for the night): "She's just 
                lucky, I guess."  Implied 
                secure base postulate:  "It's a privilege 
                to serve as my secure base". |