Until
my son Theo was about 12, it was fairly common for him to startle
or sit up in the midst of dreams. He would say something and then
go right back to sleep. I usually work late at night just a couple
of rooms away. So I would often sneak into his room and try to
awaken him just enough to ask what he was dreaming.
One night (about 8-years-old)
he cried out :
"Mom! Mom!"
I was right there. So I stepped
in, gave him a little nudge and said:
"Theo.
Theo. You were dreaming.
What were you dreaming?"
Theo (more or less asleep):
"I don't know."
I tried a little prompting:
"You
called somebody.
Do you remember
who you called?"
Theo (eyes closed):
"You"
I said:
"No, no. You
called "Mom! Mom!"
"Why did you call your mom
instead of me?"
Theo (as he fell back asleep
for the night):
"She's just
lucky, I guess."
Implied
secure base postulate:
"It's a privilege
to serve as my secure base". |